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Nag_rocks
Bewarse ke Bewarse!
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Truecolours
Desanike Pedda Bewarse
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Nag_rocks
Bewarse ke Bewarse!
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GA lone undi. |
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Desanike Pedda Bewarse
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>>>Source: Hindustan Times
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Dula
Pilla Bewarse
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Registered: 05-2005
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Spotlight: Porn killing India's sex life
Porn thrills but also kills. That is the shocking truth in a country trying to come to grips with MMS scandals, X-rated VCDs and sleazy websites. A sea of blue is about to swamp them, feel Indian couples.
An overwhelming majority of those who participated in an online poll conducted by HindustanTimes.com feel that a surfeit of porn is ruining their sex life.
"Viewing smut may add spice at the start of a relationship but once two people have lived together for some time and the initial euphoria dies down, it becomes very important to understand each other. Porn cannot be the basis of a healthy sex life. In fact it's more likely to create tensions. What is shown in such videos may be bold and exciting but it is also unnatural. Trouble starts when the partner cannot or will not meet these unnatural expectations," claims 25-year-old marketing executive Rajesh Kashyap.
Aparna Talukdar, working with a Gurgaon call center, agrees. "My boyfriend wanted me to do things that he had seen women do in adult films. Like a striptease. How could I explain to him that pleasure was not a one-way street? A striptease, for example, could not have the shared intimacy of a kiss. Gradually I could no longer bear the constant humiliation of being compared to thousands of airbrushed nudes that my boyfriend had ever seen. I couldn't offer him a perfect figure; just love and emotional fulfillment. But I guess that wasn't enough for him. It was just a matter of time before we split," she says.
Others too have been to pornographic hell and back.
"I was addicted to porn for seven years. But then I realised it was victimising me. I had become so obsessed with satisfying my bodily desires that I was unable to keep my girlfriends happy. Before I knew it, I found myself left alone, on the verge of a sexually dysfunctional life. Porn is like dope...it cannot add value to your sex life. One doesn't need such props to perform better in bed. At best it increases an individual's drive to satisfy oneself, rather than please others," insists Anuj Dayal, who sought psychiatric treatment to get over his 'blue' obsession.
But unlike Dayal, not everybody has the foresight to check themselves before it's too late, and end up paying the price. Far from making her marital life racy, porn helped derail Reena Mehrotra's marriage completely.
According to her: "My ex-husband had a fetish for visiting adult websites. Although I didn't approve of his behaviour, I decided not to interfere. But gradually I realised that it was affecting our relationship. He was indulging his desires in so many other women, rather than focus on just one. It made me feel vaguely inadequate as a person. Had I failed to satisfy him? After a lot of thought I came to the conclusion that he was the problem, not me. One day I caught him having cybersex with a chat friend and that was the last straw. I made up my mind to leave him and never see his face again."
Renowened sexologist Dr Prakash Kothari is not surprised by Reena's experience.
"There's a thin line that separates erotica from pornography. Sure, erotic images may act as a psychological aphrodisiac, but only to a certain extent. If one indulges in excess, boredom sets in. Moreover as we all know, India is not a very literate country...porn has proved disastrous for many. Couples who have never had proper sex education can ruin their sex life by viewing porn excessively and misusing it. Also if an individual's desire for porn is uncontrollable, needs unquenchable and behaviour compulsive, then he or she needs to be treated," he says.
(Names have been changed to protect identity)
Source: Hindustan Times |
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