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Username: Kobeman
Post Number: 253
Registered: 07-2005
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Handle your man with great tact
Tips for a happy marriage
Our’s is a love marriage. By all means my husband is very good to me but he has one annoying habit. He’s often talking to an unmarried girl, tries to hide it from me and once when I asked him, he clearly said “she’s a good friend.” If she’s just a friend, then why keep it a secret from me?
XYZ
Grandma’s advice
There is just no need for a man to have another “good, girl friend” if he’s happily married. The fact that he’s keeping it a secret from you is also worrisome. But, don’t nag him about it. In your own discreet way find out who this lady is and what is it that she and your husband share.
I have seen so many ‘good friends’ end up as lovers. So don’t encourage that relationship. But you must handle it with great tact. Since you say your husband is very good to you, you too be an excellent wife. Don’t be found wanting on any front. He should depend on you for all his needs. Then there’s no chance for a third person to enter.
Pretend to be disinterested in his friendship with that woman. Let it seem that it’s perfectly ok for him to talk to her in front of you cos it doesn’t bother you. Occasionally say, “Poor thing, what is her problem? Is there anyway I can help…”
Marriage is all about tact my dear. Don’t take your husband for granted, men are polygamous by nature. And there is no dearth of women who pose as “good friends” always looking for help from our husbands. Don’t in a fit of rage say “I don’t want to accompany you… you go alone…” This gives the man and his other woman a golden opportunity to spend time together.
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